I remember the first time I saw Loricious. I walked into Intro to Psychology at 8am (it was a morning floater) on a tuesday morning, the first day of my college classes. There I saw several different people, everyone pretty much sitting by themselves, no one really talking much. And among them all was this girl in a t-shirt and jeans and a baseball cap. The cap was cream color with a navy blue brim and a red Nike swoosh on the front. I remember thinking... "what have I gotten myself into". Of course, as the semester wore on, the girl and another classmate, The Dark One, wound up making me laugh on many occasions. As we neared the end of the semester, I found myself wanting to be a part of whatever fun it was that they were having. So, I asked the girl with the baseball hat who had an ongoing battle with the boy to sit in a specific seat every day, to study with me. And she accepted. And that was the beginning of a friendship that has now lasted for almost 12 years. Wow.
We have lived together for 3 years, 2 in college (sophomore and junior years) and one more a couple years after graduation in the centipede-infested place on the east side. I think I have more stories and memories of our friendship than any other. From our days in Sensenbrenner Hall where we would play quarters with shots of vodka and peach schnapps. Loricious slept on the couch most of the year because her lofted bed served as her laundry basket. But, she did clean off her bunk and let me take the couch when I came back from a party shortly after being initiated into the sorority and was too drunk to get up into my own bed. I also remember both of us at separate times, falling out of those lofts. And then junior year when we had bunk beds, I remember stepping on her multiple times as I got up in the morning. (while being awakened by the sweet sounds of New Kids on the Block- mainly just to annoy the crap out of her). We pretty much picked on each other over the years (along with one blow out fight, that we now laugh about so hard it makes us cry)- I annoyed her, she threw water on me.... I let F****er into our room to put masking tape all over her bed, she let F****er and others into our room to hang all my underwear from the tree behind our house, and many, many other instances.
Graduation was really tough for me because I was moving back to Milwaukee and no one else, at the time, was heading here. So, a year later, when Loricious decided to move here to attend graduate school, I was thrilled. Finally, one of my friends was close by. We lived together for another year, battling centipedes and a crappy landlord. The friendship made it through that, too. I remember being at a friend's wedding in St. Louis (back in college, that friend was known as Sac:)). Loricious had just started seeing her future hubby and the look on her face when we got back from the reception and she had a message from said guy. And over a year later after a lot had gone on between them, I remember the look on her face when she told me that it looked like they were getting back together. I know she was cautious, but still so excited. And of course, I remember the day she got married and how unbelievably happy she was that day. Probably happier than I have ever seen her. And how excited I was to be there and be able to witness that.
And now, she is moving forward. On a new adventure with the hubby. I will miss nights with the girls at Mamma May's place. And I will miss meeting her for shopping at the Farmer's Market followed by coffee. Even though we didn't see each other every week or even every other, she was close by and that always helped. She has been a calming influence for me at many times and helped me reason through things. I will be really sad in a couple of weeks when she heads off for another state. But, of all my friendships, I will be damned if I am going to let this one slide. I'm grateful that I will get to see her one more time before she leaves and I'm sure as she's reading this, she's probably crying just like I am. But, I'll miss her so much. And I wish her all the happiness life has to offer in her next adventure.
Loricious, you better stay in touch, because there is no way you are ever getting rid of me. Even if I have to show up on your doorstep for a surprise visit.... or maybe just mail you a rock every once in awhile from an anonymous sender:) Good luck my friend, but not goodbye.